NUTURE

We often hear the saying "Three-quarter money". The saying is usually attributed to the innate nature of children who are not much different from the nature of her parents. How a physical trait runs in families can be explained by the science of biology, the genetic traits carried by genes in every cell of our body. Detailed information and details about our physical DNA sequence contained in (Deoxiribo Nucleid Acid). But if the character is also revealed through genetic? Nature to children from birth we know as Nature, while the nature of the child caused by the influence of the environment we know as Nurture. Both of these affect the balance in children. Since in the womb, the fetus can feel and hear what is going on around him. Maternal emotional and environmental conditions affect the formation of the basic character of the child. This occurs because of changes in emotion inducing chemicals in the form of a kind of hormone or enzyme which then flows throughout the body through the blood and eventually affect the fetus. Besides anger, joy, and voices around the fetus is also very influential on the nature of the child when it grows up. Choosing parenting must consider and take into account the child's innate character. We have to look at whether we include children who can not sit still or who likes running around. We should also note whether your child would rather listen to a story or prefer to read and see pictures. Therefore, if we can detect their tendency to move, it will greatly help us in choosing a suitable parenting for them. While nurture or environmental influences is clearly influenced the nature of the child. When a child is repeatedly receives input from the environment surrounding the child's mind will slowly adapt and establish a system of values. Some value systems are formed for self-defense scheme, a mechanism to defend against everything outside of themselves are perceived as a threat. Often this is a reflex so that children are not aware of the changes. Not only verbal communication affects behavior but also non-verbal communication such as body language parents, facial expressions, hear music, and scenes on television. Based on research, the actual nature of a person is always changing from time to time. So if we want to change the child's behavior the first thing we look at is the way we educate and communicate something to the child. Sometimes it is not the child who does not want to change but because of the experience and value of the data is still limited to making kids the wrong decision. For example, children may think playing playstation more fun than cleaning the room. For that parenting a child with the system pressure and the threat no longer effective. Educating children is actually not as difficult as we imagine, but also not as easy as turning the palm of the hand. One thing that makes education easy, because it turns out the main key is exemplary, and yet it's difficult, as a role model means struggling to change habits. Want the kids like to read, then the diligent reading; want kids love the Koran, the Koran rajinlah; want the children to be gentle, be gentle; wants children to be patient, then be patient. All started from the examples, all from the old habits. Very, very worried about our children's morals if as parents, we are unable to provide a good example. The house is the first door for a child to know the life. If the house can not be miniaturized good society, then what will become of our children when they are out of the house, which is also more "unfriendly" as an educational environment. Besides other important things in educating the children is our perception of children. Our perception of children influence the way we treat them and how we speak or act against them, and it will be contagious in children without us knowing. Imagine when we're feeling annoyed at the children when they make noise. We changed wrinkled face, our voice became a little tense, and may explode if it did not get control. So what you might think about our kids with that attitude? Rest assured they will feel discomfort automatically. The mind is the most powerful force. Similarly, in the world of children. All forms of thought that comes to their mind every day will affect all aspects of their lives. Attitudes, preferences, personality and who they are as individuals, are the product of those thoughts. For that we as a people should be good at choosing the right words and expressions that affect both the children. An education expert asked some mothers, "Suppose one morning you're preparing toast for breakfast your husband, suddenly the phone rings, children crying, and a charred toast. Then your husband commented, "When did you learn to bake bread without burn it?" How are you "I replied," I think I would cry and disappointed "Another mother said," I immediately threw him bread. " Then it continued education experts question, "Say that the bread was charred, but your husband said to you," You seem tired this morning huh? "How did you react?" Some mother replied in unison, "I would feel happy and happy ". Education experts continued, "If your husband said," Let me teach you bake bread "What was your reaction?" Mothers replied, "I would not like my husband's reaction to it because it means he thinks I'm stupid." Education experts continued, "What if that was your husband do you do to your child?" Now we understand that our children do not like the criticism is not in place and continue to be repeated or if we are to dictate them as if they were creatures in the world terdungu. Whatever the condition of Nature and Nurture a child a child needs more than anything else is the understanding and empathy.